I'm not sure if anyone would be interested but -
If you're queer or trans and you're depressed/isolated/struggling, DM me your address and I'll send you a postcard.
Mail always cheers me up and I'd like to pass that along to others.
I'll do this for the first 10 or so people who message me. Boosts appreciated.
Gushing about boi
Boi is great. I was feeling kinda blue about leaving him yesterday, and then my beloved anxiety came to hit me like a freight train. I had to ask the questions to get rid of them, and he’s like “yup. We good. I thought you were busy so you were doing you, but I’m happy to see your messages”
Coming out 2
She thought I was non monogamous (still debating that actually, but that’s none of her beeswax) and that I’d just be sleeping around (beeswax) and I’m like “no, I’m just attracted to men and women.” Gods. I’ll probably lose my sisters to a wall. Mom liked walls before Trump made them a trend.
Coming out 1
I hate how I did it. I hate that it happened. I hate knowing that my mother still thinks I have a mental illness and that only Christian therapists can have any real and good answers. But there it is. I made some boundaries for her, and I will guard them hard. Walking away from her would be easier. Once the kids are old enough I hope to. My mom will not accept my being bisexual as anything but a mental illness, and doesn’t even know what it actually is.
Emotionally abusive mom
I’m done being scared. Before this weekend is out we’re talking. On *my* terms. If she doesn’t work on herself then I’m done. And I’ll have the satisfaction of telling her I gave her the chance.
It’s going to hurt, but I have strength. I have people to lend me theirs when I need it. And I’m going to dig in deep and break the chains I grew up with.
Mastadon has been so helpful with my plants - I have a question about my dog.
He barks at everything. Other dogs. Every person. And not like a friendly oh I'm excited bark but a fuck off bark. We've been trying to teach him to not bark for years with little success and it suuuuucks for my stress level.
Any advice? He's too scared of a clicker to train with that. I tried for weeeeeks.
tips for getting stuff done with a crippling fear of failure
1. Say something reassuring to yourself like - "don't worry, we'll do this together, I'll love you no matter what." Imagine someone holding your hand.
2. Do a small, quick part of the desired task.
3. Do a quick body scan to reassure yourself that your body is still safe and you are not being chased by a bear like your fight-or-flight system would have you believe.
there is a gross ass anti abortion movie called "unplanned". if you want an actual GOOD and accurate movie on abortion and PP. then watch "Reversing Roe" on netflix. it honestly made me cry. women have fought so hard to get where they are, and im so thankful for the women before me who have sacrificed their lives so i can be here living my life
Emotionally abusive mom
She’s coming over this weekend, and I feel both but raw terror and horror. I’m 26 and I’m still afraid of her. And I hate that. I don’t understand why I’m still afraid. I’m out of her house, I’m working towards real freedom where I can tell her she can play nice or not at all but I’m still brought to tears by the idea that she’ll find something precious to me and come after me for it.
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